Black Girl Friendship/ Sisterhood, Black Girl Wisdom, Black Womanhood, Faith & Spirituality, Grief & Coping, Journey to PhD

2016 Taught Me…

Hi good people and Happy New Year!

Here we are, 8 whole days into #2017 and I am sharing what #2016TaughtMe. Why? Because I believe in looking back only to review what you learned so that you can apply those lessons to your future.

Anyway, here’s a quick list of things that #2016TaughtMe:

  1. Jesus can teach you a lesson (literally) until (and beyond) the midnight hour…

A few hours before the clock struck 12 for the new year, I had to make a pretty big decision. I could either go on a trip to a conference that I had my¬†trepidations about to begin with or I could cancel my flight, lose out on almost $700 (I still had to pay for the room) and show up for class during the week of the conference. I would also be in town for my friend’s surprise engagement party, which I had been kicking myself for missing.

When I initially booked my flight for the trip, our class schedule was seemingly PERFECT. I could be gone for the week and wouldn’t miss class at all. Then of course, life happened and our class schedule flipped. I am SUPER DUPER TYPE A about my academics (and life in general) and immediately decided that the trip wasn’t worth me missing the first class for the course. Many would say this was extreme and I must have money to play in…but I don’t. I talked to my mom about it and she supported my decision to cancel my travel plans (she actually knew that I would want this before I told her my final decision).

Anyway, I shared this story to say this: ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS follow your “first mind”. Had I done so, I would still have my $700! (#LessonLearned)

2. My understanding, demonstration and appreciation of friendship heightened.

I absolutely love the act of friendship. Showing up and supporting my friends is a huge reward for me being in their lives. In 2016, I sacrificed a LOT to BE THERE for my friends. 2 of my friends got married on back to back weekends and I was present for both. I took off work, traveled and was present, each time. I planned a bridal shower for the first time ever and made sure that my #PrincessBride would love it. I traveled to support another friend for her very first event as a public speaker, the day that my second semester in grad school ended. I’m not saying this to toot my own horn…just to illustrate how I demonstrate the act of friendship. I SHOW UP. Every time. And when I can’t, I show support in other ways. My limitless are boundless when it comes to demonstrating true friendship. 2016 taught me that.

3. Delay is NOT denial.

In 2016 I began my #JourneyToPhD. After feeling like God had completely forgot about me and that He had changed His plan for my life (without telling me, as if He had to do that!), I finally began my terminal degree. I have so much to say here but I want this to be its own post later, so I’ll just say this…trust God’s timing for your life. ALWAYS.

4. God is constantly speaking– especially in stillness.

Whether it’s wash day (#NaturalHairBeLike), you’re exercising, brushing your teeth, ironing clothes or any other mundane task, make sure that you’re still connected to God’s voice. He speaks (and moves) in stillness. If you’re not careful, you’ll miss the sweet Words that He speaks directly to you when no one else can hear them.

5. Taking the first step is often the hardest and most important.

I ended 2016 by starting on my 2017 goals. Things that I had been telling myself that I was going to do during 2016 and never got around to them, I made sure to start them before the new year came in. And while we are only 8 days in, I am proud that I am still moving forward with them! The first step is usually the most difficult but it can also be the most rewarding! After you take that first step…LEAP in obedience!

Well, that’s all for now. While society was total garbage last year, 2016 was alright by me. I endured the worst pain of my life in 2015 and I prayed for 2016 to be a year of learning how to heal. I am not all the way there and I may never be (grief SUCKS), but I am working on it. And in 2017, I am looking forward to more healing, more happiness and more hope.

Talk to y’all soon,

#BBG

 

 

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